You’re called upon to make up your mind, but it’s hard to choose. You see different options, and most of them seem okay. None stands out as terribly wrong or as a mistake. Nothing seems foolish. You could select any of the choices, and the outcome would probably be reasonably decent. You’re stymied. Indecision is a terrible place to be!
Still, you’ve come to the point of having to choose which direction to go in, and you cannot do it. There are too many choices. Should you take the simplest or the cheapest or the fastest way? The end result should be about the same. The only difference is how much work you’ll need to do, how much the cost will be, or how quickly you’ll arrive at the goal. Nothing really stands out as the right way.
You don’t know your own motivations. What are your intentions? At what place do you want to arrive? If you arrive early or late, will anything change? Would a greater opportunity present itself? What if you delay when you shouldn’t? What if you rush and get ahead of yourself? Is there embarrassment waiting in the wings? Or are you truly unable to see any good reason to make a choice?
Then let someone else influence you. Allow another to choose. You don’t need to be the leader all the time. You don’t have to be the decision maker. Someone else might see a thing you missed or overlooked. Let the direction become one picked by somebody else. You don’t need the credit. You’ve made many decisions before, and now you cannot choose. Allow another person, who has different intentions from you, step up and choose. Good things might happen.
In A Passion for Prayer, Thomas D. Elliff wrote, “Our failure to decide gives others the power to decide for us, sometimes with disastrous results.”
If you allow another member of the group to choose, the results could be disastrous, and your indecision will not have helped the situation. But if the results are not disastrous, you may have created a new leader or, at least, shared the choice with another intelligent person, building up his or her self-esteem. Let another choose; the outcome might be wrong for you, but good for them. Don’t hold someone else back because you cannot decide.
You’ll have to do what you don’t want to do, or the decision of the other person may lead you where you didn’t want to go. Yet it could be good and useful. There might be a tragedy lurking in your choosing or your failure to choose. So when you cannot pick what to do, pray to God because he always hears, and allow another to grow. Support what’s chosen, and mature as a leader.